2nd baby and family issues???
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I am 20; have a 18 m.o. son; engaged; and am pregnant. This is the 3rd time - i had a MC with the 2nd. BAsically, my family was mad when I had my 1st and Im thinking with this one, they may be ready to disown me. I do not recieve financial help from n e 1 but my mom, and she is the only one who is letting me be me. My grandparents, aunt, and my father have been talking about me to my younger sisters, and that basically hurt me to the point that I do not care what they think anymore. But, for some reason I still think about what are they going to say when they find out. No one thinks I am going to amount to anything b/c I didnt go to college. They think I didnt go b/c of my bf, but I didnt go b/c we couldnt afford it. I am going to school online, but I do not think I can afford thousands of dollars in loans. My fiance thinks we should get an abortion b/c we don't have $$ now, but I think we can make it just like with our 1st. What should I do about all this? He hasnt really spoken about
2nd baby and family issues???I can tell you from experience that it will always work out. You should not get an abortion and punish the little life growing inside of you because you don't think you can afford it. I am 22 and have 2 boys. one who is about to be 4 and one who is 2 1/2. My first son we had when I was 18 my husband 19. We were not married either. I was very scared to tell my father with my first son because of what he might say, but I did and it turned out okay. My second I just came right out as soon as I found out and he didn't really care. I have not been to college, and neither has my husband (he didn't even complete highschool). When we had our first child my husband didn't have a very good job, but we always found a way to make ends meet. With our second it at first they weren't very good either. We struggled, but we always new that it would be okay. We went through all kinds of things with our children from my son not being able to sit up at 9 months to finding out my ollder son had a sensory disorder that he will enver be able to get rid of. But is is all working out. As time has gone on thing HAVE gotten better. My husband has finally gotten a great job. He is now a manager of a world wide know company and I have a great job. We have learned to work it out so that my husband can work during the day and I part time at night so we do not have to pay child care expenses (which saves a ton). Except for the fact that sleep is sometimes hard to get. We finally got our own place about 2 years ago. For a while we lived with my husbands mom. Everything is started to come together. But it took alot. It took alot of time and patience and hard work. You are young, and being married or close to it and having children is very hard at that age (I know from experience). You just have to work at it and it time things will look up. And as far as your family is concerned they should never talk about you to anyone exspecially your sister. Your relationship with your sister is probably very strong and no matter what youdo they should never talk ill about you to her. Your family should always stick by you in good times and bad times no matter what they think of the situation you are in. It is not their life to run or their busness to butt into. You just have to do whatever makes you happy. There are lots of things you can do when you are pregnant to get help. I'm not sure if you know about things like WIC or not, and there is always some kind of support from the state that you live in for you when you are pregnant and your children when they are young. Just try the best you can, work hard and believe that in time everything will get better and work out for the best~! I hope I have helped to give you a little bit of encouragement that things can get better. I know that some people may tell you a different story on here about how things didn't work for them, but it can. Honestly I don't believe in abortion, but I guess this is something you honestly have to decide for yourself. I do know that some pepole regret it later on in life and some even have a hard time having children. I know that I would not change what has happened to me for anything. It has all made me the person I am today. It has made me stronger, made my relationship with my husband grow as we have made it through the rough times, and I would not give up my children for anything. I love them more than anything and I am so glad I have been through what I have for the simple reason that I have my beautiful children~!!
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